Sweetmakers

April 25, 2007

Calcutta, Pujo 2006.

Wag the dog

Here. (Thanks Abi for the link!)

And here, lots of Labs…

And one more:

Grow old along with me

Atul Gawande writing about an aging society:

Decline remains our fate; death will come. But, until that last backup system inside each of us fails, decline can occur in two ways. One is early and precipitately, with an old age of enfeeblement and dependence, sustained primarily by nursing homes and hospitals. The other way is more gradual, preserving, for as long as possible, your ability to control your own life.
Gawande goes to meet a longtime geriatrician who is himself, now, eighty-seven years old, and the primary caregiver for his aging wife Bella:

Finally, at eighty-two, he had to retire. The problem wasn’t his health; it was that of his wife, Bella. They’d been married for more than sixty years. Felix had met Bella when he was an intern and she was a dietitian at Kings County Hospital, in Brooklyn. They brought up two sons in Flatbush. When the boys left home, Bella got her teaching certification and began working with children who had learning disabilities. In her seventies, however, retinal disease diminished her vision, and she had to stop working. A decade later, she became almost completely blind. Felix no longer felt safe leaving her at home alone, and in 2001 he gave up his practice. They moved to Orchard Cove, a retirement community in Canton, Massachusetts, outside Boston, where they could be closer to their sons.

“I didn’t think I would survive the change,” Felix said. He’d observed in his patients how difficult the transitions of age could be. Examining his last patient, packing up his home, he felt that he was about to die. “I was taking apart my life as well as the house,” he recalled. “It was terrible.”

… Her blindness and recent memory troubles have made her deeply dependent. Without him, I suspect, she would probably be in a nursing home. He helps her dress. He administers her medicines. He makes her breakfast and lunch. He takes her on walks and to doctors’ appointments. “She is my purpose now,” he said. Bella doesn’t always like his way of doing things. “We argue constantly—we’re at each other about a lot of things,” Felix said. “But we’re also very forgiving.”

He does not feel this responsibility to be a burden. With the narrowing of his own life, his ability to look after Bella has become his main source of self-worth. “I am exclusively her caregiver,” he said. “I am glad to be.” And this role has heightened his sense that he must be attentive to the changes in his own capabilities; he is no good to her if he isn’t honest with himself about what he can and can’t do.

The whole thing here.

The Photograph

Self-portrait with mother and father. Satyajit Ray, 1935.

Nimrodh

That morning, some upper-caste Brahmin and Bania youth aggressively blocked his path to the temple, threatening him if he returned to worship there. They taunted him, “What business do low-caste people like you have in our temple? Just stand at a far distance and join your hands.”

It is difficult to explain exactly what transpired at that moment. But a lifetime, indeed generations of uncomplaining acquiescence to multitudes of degradations and humiliation of caste, just cracked within him. Rarely had Bhanwar seen his father so agitated than when he returned home that day. He broke his silence some days later, to announce his decision to his stunned family. “I will build my own temple. It will be bigger and better than anything that the people of this village have seen. Let us see who can stop us from worshipping then?”

Harsh Mander in HT.

Equal Pay Day

Yesterday was Equal Pay for Women Day, a step to mark the wage gap between men and women. According to this Ms Magazine report:

In 1963, women earned 59 cents for every dollar men earned. Although earnings for women have increased, the wage gap persists today. Among full-time, year-round workers, women now earn 77 cents, on average, for every dollar that men earn. Behind the Pay Gap, a report released Monday by the American Association of University Women (AAUW) Educational Foundation, exposes the disparity in wages between college-educated women and men. The report analyzed data from the US Department of Education on nearly 20,000 college graduates from the years 1992-93 and 1999-2000 and found that women earn 80 percent of what men make just one year after college — a gap that widens to 69 percent after ten years.

Additionally, the report shows that the wage gap persists despite women’s educational achievement. In college, women maintained higher grade point averages and outperformed men academically in all subjects, including science and math…